Why You Shouldn’t Say ‘I Love You’ Just Yet


Sometimes, you will be caught in situations where you feel like you have to say it. HOLD OFF! Think long and hard first. It can be difficult to tell when the right moment to declare your love would be, but we can guarantee you that it’s not during any of these moments.

Here are 4 times when saying “I love you” for the first time shouldn’t be an option:

1. You’ve just started your relationship, If you have just met them.



Things are just starting out in your relationship and you’re only just beginning to get to know each other more. It would be rather foolish to romantically attach yourself so deeply for someone you rarely know. You don’t go around saying you love people you don’t have any real attachments with. You have to spend lots of time with a person before you know for sure that you love him


2. You’re drunk.


Alcohol is not your best friend when it comes to romantic gestures. When you say “I love you”, you always want the first time to be special. You never want it to be done under the influence of alcohol. It takes the sincerity aspect out of the equation and it diminishes the value of what you’re saying. You want to make sure that all your faculties are in order, and that you have complete control of your own senses for the first time you say these three magical words.

3. You’ve just gotten out of a long-term romance.


You’re vulnerable and you’re feeling sad and broken. You’ve just gotten out of a long-term relationship that didn’t work out for the best. You poured your heart and soul into that romance, but it just never bloomed the way that you want it to. You’re lost because all of your future plans had depended on that relationship and now you’re left at a crossroads. Of course you want to hitch your wagon to the first speedster that comes along but you have to resist that temptation. It’s okay to start dating again whenever you feel like you’re ready, but it’s probably not best to be saying “I love you” so soon after you just ended a serious relationship with another person.

4. You have wrong expectations about your romantic declaration.


When you do say “I love you” for the first time, make sure that there aren’t any expectations attached to it. Hopefully he will say that he loves you back but you shouldn’t really be expecting anything more than that. Don’t expect any dramatic life changes on his part. Don’t expect any drastic changes to the dynamics of your relationships. Expectations can lead to disappointment; and when you say “I love you” to someone, they shouldn’t come with conditions or expectations in the first place.

H/T: Relrules