Marriage is the biggest step forward in a relationship and an enormous matter too. The word ‘wedding’ does not describe properly what it means and the ways in which it changes the lives of two people and their families. It is the merging of two completely different lives together. The life you have been living alone is to be shared with another person; everything you do will involve her too. You may have spent some nights with her or may have been living together for some time, but marriage would still haunt you sometimes. But it will not be too haunting an experience if you see the signs that tell you she is worth marrying.
Here are 10 signs that, if you see in her, may rid you of all the doubts.
1. You share similar values
She doesn’t necessarily have to be on board with everything, unless you’re living in a perfect world, which you’re not. She doesn’t have to agree with you on everything, but there are things you two should definitely have in common; your values. Religion, humanity, family, friends, and goals among other things that you hold in utmost importance. It’s going to be really difficult to live with someone who doesn’t share the same basic values as you.
She does not always have to see eye to eye with you and neither should she undoubtedly believe all your plans. It is not a perfect world we are living in so it is perfectly normal for her to disagree with you on certain matters but there are some things that you two need to share with each other, and those are values. Religion, views, family and friends ought to be interests common in you and her. Having different and opposite views and values can cause problems but if she shares the same values as yours, that is a good sign.
2. She not only gets you, but is your biggest supporter as well
She knows what you want from life and your relationship. She understands and believes in your vision. You can always count on her to be there for you till you achieve your goals and of course even after that. Her confidence in you washes away any doubts that you might have. She realises your struggle, and compromises without complaining.
Not only does she respects your goals and helps you achieve them but also she supports you to pursue every dream you have. She doesn’t back you down and discourage you but makes you believe in yourself and lives every moment of a hardship with you. Her compromises are not a show-off but are silent; she is supportive and lives your struggle like it is hers.
3. She respects you
That doesn’t mean she has to oblige with everything you ask of her, or she has to blindly agree with everything you say. It simply means that she holds you and your opinions in high regard. Nothing you say goes unnoticed. She’d consider what you want, or what you say, but at the same time, she’s allowed to make her own decisions and do what’s best for her.
Additionally, she never ridicules you in anyway. You could have the craziest of dreams, and all you’ll get from her is support. Even if there is criticism, it’s going to be constructive.
Her respect for you means noticing everything you say although it does not oblige her to do everything you tell her to. She respects you as a person and does not make fun of anything you hold dear. She regards you highly but at the same time, she is mature enough to make her own decisions and include you in them. Mutual respect is what she promotes in a relationship and is always there to listen to you.
4. She isn’t unnecessarily self-absorbed
One simply can’t stand being around someone whose life is fixated on themselves alone. You’d be better off living on your own than having to spend all your life with such a person. With self-preservation comes selfishness. But if there’s one thing that loving someone teaches you; it’s selflessness. You can’t suppress your instincts, but you naturally think of the people you love even before yourself at times. She should be willing to make the necessary sacrifices for the relationship, and so should you.
It is unpleasant to be around people who are unnecessarily self-absorbed, let alone dating them and marrying them. Living alone would be better than spending whole life with them. Being selfless does not mean suppressing your instincts but putting other people’s interests before yours sometimes is the true meaning. Love teaches you to be selfless; you automatically think of the person you love before you think of yourself. If she does that, she is worth marrying.