Lying can be complicated and difficult, especially if you don’t do it very often. For beginner, liars must learn a few basics about what makes a good lie, such as sticking with a simple lie and making sure the lie is believable. You’ll need to avoid some of the most common things that give away a lie, such as fidgeting, changing your voice, and not making eye contact.
1. Tell yourself that you are right: Have your reasons for lying
The easiest way to lie without getting nervous is to convince yourself that you are lying for a reason. Lying is unethical and anyone with a conscience will think twice before saying a lie. But this might change if there is a justifiable reason for the lie.
Get over this hurdle by reminding yourself about the reasons for your lie. Mentally, bring yourself to the point where you convince yourself to believe that there is justification for that lie.
This little exercise will help you get step over your guilt to a certain extent. It will go a long way in helping you to maintain your composure when you lie.
2. Practice the lie in your head before you say it
Like everything else in else in life, practice your lie before you actually say it. Play the situation and the conversation in your head over and over again so you can think of what someone might say. This will help you prepare for rebuttals.
Practicing the situation will put you in a familiar territory when you actually face it. Thinking about all the possible outcomes will equip you to handle unanticipated questions.
3. Practice your poker face in the mirror
Controlling the expressions on your face is vital if you want to lie without being caught. The slightest signs of a blush or a smile will instantly give you away.
As easy as it sounds, holding a poker face is actually quite difficult. Overcome this hurdle by standing in front of the mirror and look at yourself in the eyes. Avoid twitching any of your facial muscles and keep a serious face. Practice it again and again until you feel pretty comfortable holding up an expression-less face with ease.
4. Control your body language: Win half the battle
Saying the lie is just half the battle. The other half lies in effortlessly pulling off a calm body language that reeks of confidence and panache. Here are a few pointers:
- Be relaxed and don’t carry an aggressive body language
- Avoid unnecessary body movement
- Keep your hands straight and by your side unless you are holding something
- Don’t be fidgety
- Stand straight and relax your shoulders
- Hold your head straight and don’t stoop
- Don’t itch or run your fingers through your hair unnecessarily
These are some of the generic body language signs of confidence, which is exactly what you must portray if you want to avoid looking nervous while lying.
5. Make eye contact and don’t look away
Looking away is seen as a giveaway when it comes to catching a liar. On the other hand, a solid eye contact is seen as a sign of confidence. Looking into someone’s eye when you lie, will also help you judge their expressions and manage your own reactions accordingly.
Don’t look away even after you have said what you wanted to say. Wait for a response and look away only when the conversation comes to a close.