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9 Ways to Tell if Your Relationship is Real or Not

9 Ways to Tell if Your Relationship is Real or Not

5. There must be that uncomfortable feeling in the relationship!

This means opening up in front your partner should make you feel a little uncomfortable at first. You should feel a bit uncomfortable when you expose yourself. The good thing about feeling this is that this uncomfortable moment vanishes so quickly and one feels confident and relief when they see their partner accept them for what they really are. That feeling you get when a person considers things about you to be perfect, the things that you thought you will never even be able to show to someone, is unmatchable.

To have this feeling of confidence in yourself and relief is only achieved when you are uncomfortable about something in the beginning.

6. That anxious feeling should be there in the relationship!

With deference and love, comes a little neuroticism. You cannot really fall for someone and adore them without having that little fear about the power the guy or the girl will have over you, this is because of the fact that that person can pretty easily toss your heart back at you and leave you all alone.

It takes a lot of courage to tell someone that you love them. And then, even when you do, there always is that little anxious feeling that that person can leave you anytime and it can destroy you.

One should feel this uneasiness in the relationship, if they really have opened up in front of and given everything to the person they love.

7. That Frustrating feeling!

That frustrating feeling you get when you are in a relationship with someone and he or she does not reply to your text for an hour or two, or when you miss and need them but cannot really do anything about it because they are far from you or some other reason, shows how much you really want them.

This frustrating feeling is basically the one you get when you are not able to be with the person you love.

8. You will and should feel Ugly!

The most beautiful couple is the one that is the ugliest. If you can expose and uncover the most crude self in front of someone and they still love how you look and are happy to be with you, congratulations, you are in a real relationship!

Those people who can show their worst sides to someone, completely open up in front of someone, don’t have to wear a “mask” in front of someone, and don’t have to pretend to be someone they aren’t and show their true face, are the only ones that have achieved the level of comfort to be involved in true love with that someone.

9.   Vulnerability!

This is the last one in the list but definitely not the least. If you love someone and are in a relationship with them, you must feel vulnerable in front of them.

Loving someone truly and with all your heart is all about opening up in front of them, sharing everything with them, giving everything you can and being completely helpless in front of them. You give them your heart and hope that they don’t drop it.

You give everything, more than you can imagine to the person you love hoping that they would return the same and will never throw everything away and just walk away.

Yes, you love that person and he or she loves you back, as well, but you are afraid deep inside that there is a chance that things might not go as planned and they walk away.

This feeling of vulnerability reduces as time goes on, but it is always there in your mind and you can’t really get rid of it completely. But that is the beauty of love, the fear and the vulnerability that keeps you on the edge and the love grows more and more.

You cannot truly fall for someone and love them without having that fear and all the above mentioned negative feelings, because if you don’t feel any of these feelings, it isn’t true love!

H/T:  Relrules 


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