1. You compare everyone to him.

Even if you think you’re ready to start dating again, every time you meet a new guy, you make a list of all the ways he doesn’t measure up to your ex.

Once you’re really over him, you’ll measure men on their own merits.

2. You’re over doing things, hoping. 

You dress up in the hopes you’ll run into him and, when you do see him, you make your life seem really, really awesome.

Because, obviously, you’re better off without him and — dude! — he’s gotta see what he’s missing! And you’ve got to realize what you’re missing in making him the center of your life.

3. You have no interest in that hot dude giving you the eye. 

You have men throwing themselves at you left and right, eager to love the pain away.

But all those guys hitting on you at parties and bars?

They seem pretty repulsive right now.

When your ex calls, however, you pick up right away.

What? It could be important!

Try chatting up a new guy.

You never know what could happen …

4. Your still stalk him in social media.

 The other day, while innocently wandering about Facebook or Instagram, you noticed that a cute girl had left a flirtatious message on your ex’s wall. And you are angry in you

5. Everything reminds you of him. 

You break into sobs every time you hear “your song.” Your weekly date is just not the same without him.

Not only that, but you have a running list of things you need to tell him when you see him, based upon everything exciting, hilarious and/or tragic that has occurred since you split.

Because who else would you share these things with? Well, your best friend, for starters.

Your mom. Your shrink. Or, gasp… a new man.

Try to forget the lists, stop putting energy in the past and instead bond with the people who are actually in your life.

6. You’re lashing out in social media. 

You trash talk him on Twitter, instagram and Facebook. To all your Friends

7. Seeing him still makes you go weak in the knees.


You get the shakes.

And you’re sort of afraid you might projectile vomit.

Which would be embarrassing.

Sound familiar?

If your reaction is this visceral, we’re going to hazard a guess and say you’re still not over him.

8. You still have the secret fantasy that the two of you still have a future together. 

And this misguided belief is keeping you from living life, or at least giving anyone new a chance.

While no one can really know what the future holds, it’s best to remember that breakups happen for a reason.

And often, that reason was a darn good one.

If you’re holding back on your future, it’s likely that you’re still stuck in the past.

9. You’re still having ex sex. Ex sex isn’t always a terrible idea … but it usually is.

If you’ve recently broken up, you can’t have sex and expect that you won’t remain emotionally involved.

We know, we know.

No one else has ever been able to do … that … to you.

But still.

H/T: Your Tango