9 Reasons Why You Can’t Find A Good Man

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If you’re making any of these mistakes, you are hurting your own chances at finding Mr. Right. Here’s why you can’t find a good man.

1. Aggressively pursuing any man that comes your way

Desperation is not sexy, sweetie. I totally understand wanting a man with all your heart and feeling rejected. However, actually getting aggressive in your pursuit of one never works, except when it comes to attracting users and abusers.

Good men don’t want women who will take anyone, and if you were honest with yourself, you probably wouldn’t want a guy who would take anyone, either. Tone it down a notch!

2. Having a “type” and refuse to deviate from it

A lot of people tend to assume that they can only date a certain “type” of person but that often leads to them ignoring good people who might actually be better for them. While there’s nothing wrong with standards, refusing to date people based on things like their height or the music they listen to might be a sign you’re being too picky.

3. Not improving yourself

Everyone has something they can improve. I have my flabby stomach and caustic attitude towards men, but others might have smaller issues. The better you look, act, and feel, the more attractive you are. The more attractive you are, the more likely it is that decent men will want you.

A little improvement can go a long, long way, so give it a try if things just aren’t working. You never know what might happen.

 

4. Acting like a diva

Expecting your date to treat you with respect is a given and it’s totally reasonable. What isn’t reasonable is expecting a man to shower you with presents every single date, pay for all your sh*t, and also put up with temper tantrums. If you act like a diva, don’t be shocked if men eventually get sick of it and bail because that’s definitely why you can’t find a good man.

5. Hanging out with a crowd that isn’t good

Part of meeting good men is hanging out with a crowd that has decent people in it. If everyone in your clique has domestic violence issues, cheating, and commitment issues, you’re not going to find a good man via that clique’s connections. Birds of a feather tend to flock together, so you might need to change your scene if you want to get a decent partner.

6. Trying to date while hating men

If you’ve ever gone on a date with a woman-hater, you already know how uncomfortable that makes you. Believe it or not, men can pick up on bad vibes, too, and it makes them just as uncomfortable as it makes you. If this sounds like you, you might need to take a break from dating.

7. Bribing guys for dates

I’ve been here, and yes, I understand what a bad place you have to be in for this to become a habit. The thing is that men who are worth your time will never want to accept a bribe for a date. Doing this only attracts the worst men and scares good men away.

8. Refusing to make the first move

Guys get nervous! A lot of men are intimidated by women to the point that they won’t approach them. Ask them out and you might be surprised at how many of the shy ones will be great guys to date.

9. Refusing to go out

This one always bugs me. How are you going to meet new people if you don’t go out? Most of the time, online dating doesn’t yield good results. In fact, a third of all men on those sites are already in relationships. Your best bet is to meet someone in person, so go out and have fun.

H/T: Ossiana Tepfenhart for  Your Tango