A guy who likes you is going to look at you… obviously! So, if you catch him looking at you from across the room, that’s good. It’s also good if he looks you up and down (although also a little creepy) when he’s talking to you. Pay attention to where his eyes go. A dude who isn’t interested isn’t going to spend a lot of time looking at you… if anything, he’s going to try to avoid you.
When a guy has a crush, he almost always tries to impress her by bragging a little bit. He might not even realize he’s bragging, he’s just trying to get you to like him back. He might subtly talk about the things he’s good at, like “casually” dropping that he’s in a band, or he got a really good grade on a test, or something like that. When I first met my boyfriend, he spent a lot of time talking to me about how his dirtbike, quad and sports car. Later, he told me he was just trying to impress me. It’s cute! If you notice a guy bragging like this, it’s because he wants you to think he’s special.
Unless he’s super, super suave, he’ll get a little bit nervous when he’s flirting with you. Pay attention to his body language. Is he fidgeting around? Is he playing with a pen or jiggling his leg around or running his hands through his hair? These are all signs that he’s nervous. And guys usually don’t get nervous around people they don’t care about, so… take it was a good sign.
For those who are bold enough, touching is a huge part of flirting. It’s not that he’s going to wrap his arms around you and stroke your hair (unless he’s very confident)… he’ll reach out to touch your arm, or your leg. He might try to “casually” slip an arm around you. He might give you a hug goodbye and go in for a kiss on the cheek. Stuff like that. He’ll try to be subtle about it.
Think about how you act when you’re talking to your crush. You’re happy and a little bit nervous. You probably have a big, doofy smile on your face, or a little nervous one. You probably giggle a little bit more than you normally do. Well, guys do this also, even the giggling bit. If he laughs at a lot of things you say and smiles through most of the conversation, that means he’s happy, giddy and at ease.
Unless this guy is pretty shy or awkward, he’ll probably try flirting by making some suggestive comments. He’ll joke around about how you guys should hook up, or he’ll say sexual jokes, or he’ll say some dirtier stuff if he’s really smooth. He’s not putting himself out there in that way because he DOESN’T want to hook up with you, okay?
You know how, when you were in middle school, your mom used to say that that little boy was just being mean to you because he likes you? Well, older guys aren’t going to be flat-out mean if they like you (unless they’re really immature and misguided)… they’re just going to tease you a little bit. They’ll joke around and kind of make fun of you, but only in a really gentle way. They’ll make it clear that they’re not trying to put you down, they’re just trying to joke around.