Here are a few ways how you can stop suffering in a controlling relationship.
1. Communicate how you feel
Tell them how their controlling and manipulative behavior is hurting you and damaging your relationship. If they love you, they’ll understand that they need to change their attitude. Have a talk with them, be clear and firm about your views. Talk a stand for yourself, tell them it’s not okay that you treat them like a slave or a puppet. Be honest and specific about how you feel in a calm and composed manner, fighting about it will create more issues.
2. Stop being too accepting
You reinforce the behavior that you keep accepting, if you keep giving in to everything your partner says, they’ll further develop the habit of suppressing you. Learn to say NO. Your partner might make you feel guilty about it but remember that is one of their ways of controlling you, so even if they try emotionally blackmailing you into doing something, say no unless you feel like doing it yourself.
3. Stand up for your priorities
A controlling partner will try to have power over every single thing that you do, every relationship you have, every choice that you make; they will have you do it your way. This should not be the case, you should have the right to do things that are significant to you, that make you happy. If you have certain priorities like family, career etc; stand up for them. Make it clear to your partner that you don’t want to give up them up, take control of the things that matter to you personally.