This may also be the perfect time to set some goals for your love life, stop hanging around guys who are you using you (even if you’re using them back!) and learn how to identify the kind of man you want to date. I like to call him “Mr. Boyfriend Material.”
Like you, Mr. Boyfriend Material dates with dignity and is interested in finding someone confident, independent, and has the skills necessary to communicate.
The ability to understand and respect Mr. Boyfriend Material is vital because he won’t put up with your crap. He won’t let you “sulk” or manipulate him with your tears. He expects you to communicate your needs, have boundaries, express your expectations directly, and allow him to engage in activities that fulfill the essence of who he is.
There are few key signs to look for to know if the guy you are dating is Mr. Boyfriend Material:
1. He can support himself and provide for you
A guy is typically most confident, secure, and ready to be in an exclusive long-term relationship when he feels “settled.” He’s spent time building his career and has the time available to invest in your relationship. He’s financially secure.
Remember, men who are not in this place in life are still worth dating; they’re just not likely to be good candidates for a long-term partnership. If you’re dating someone who’s just starting to climb the ladder to emotional and financial security, you’ll likely need to be extremely patient as he moves through these phases of manhood.
2. He does what he says he’ll do — every single time
A man who is capable of a long-term relationship has integrity, and as a result his words and actions match. He calls when he says he will call. He follows through on the promises he makes.
This is one of the most crucial signs a man is boyfriend material. If his words and actions match consistently, it’s clear he’s ready to play in the big leagues.
3. He’s done playing stupid games
He doesn’t apply the “Three-Day Rule” to the women he dates, wait twenty-four hours before returning your phone call, or “vanish” to draw you into his world. When he’s interested in pursuing you, he’ll just DO it.
Conversely, if you play games with Mr. Boyfriend Material, he’ll politely decline the opportunity to get to know you and probably dismiss you as immature. Be gracious, kind and authentic, because Mr. BoyfriendMaterial is attracted to a confident woman who, like him, is past playing games.