6 Reasons You Shouldn’t Try To Change Your Partner


You can’t force your partner to act in ways that are unnatural to them just so it will make you happy.

You have to remember that you are still dealing with another human being who also has limitations and vulnerabilities.

You can’t expect your partner to radically change who they are just for your sake.

You shouldn’t also have to change who you are for the sake of your partner.

There are plenty of reasons as to why trying to change your partner is a bad idea and here are a few of them:

1. It can be the source of potential unnecessary conflict.

You have to consider that your partner is reluctant to change.

Not all people are going to be receptive of criticism especially if you are dealing it out constantly.

If you are always trying to change your partner, you might be instigating some very unnecessary fights.

2. That person is not going to change unless they want to.

Unless a person really wants to change, then that person is most likely going to stay the same.

You can’t ever force a fish to fly. It would be the same of asking a person to become something they have no interesting in being.

3. You just give off the vibe that you are an intolerant snob.

You never want to be seen as someone who is intolerant of other people.

You can’t always force people to act a certain way just because you don’t know how to interact with them.

You aren’t entitled to having people adjust to whatever you want.

4. You should focus on things that you can control within yourself.

Instead of asking your partner to change for you, maybe you can look inside of yourself and find things that you can change on your own.

6. It can generate resentment and ill feelings.

If you want to preserve the love and happiness in your relationship, you are going to want to avoid negativity at all costs.

The more you try to change each other, the more resentment and hate that you could be stewing up in the relationship.

7. It can stifle the communication and honesty in your relationship.

If your partner constantly feels like you are criticizing and judging them for anything that they say, then they will not want to communicate with you anymore.

They will not want to be honest to you.

And remember that communication and honesty are important in sustaining a loving relationship.

H/T:  RelRules