Stop thinking about him. Life is short, so try not to get caught up in an endless loop of sadness.
Getting over someone you love can seem impossible now, but don’t worry: Getting over your ex doesn’t take a lot of work, If you need a quick boost, just remember that it will get easier. The first few days of a breakup seem impossible to move on from, but by month two you’ll probably forget why you were so upset over someone who was hardly worth a second of your time. And secretly you already know that.
Resist the temptation to turn to anger. Part of you might genuinely feel angry. That’s fine, but you should avoid twisting or masking your pain with anger. Anger might make you feel less vulnerable, in fact, it probably makes you feel in control and gives you something to direct your energy towards. However, the only way to work past your grief and accept the current situation is to let yourself feel the other emotions lurking beneath the anger.
1. Delete and Block them from social media
Go ahead and press the block button right now. Come on, give it a try. You’ll suddenly feel a whole lot lighter in your gut when you find yourself with the urge to spend 30 minutes stalking every single person who liked your ex’s latest post-breakup gym selfie and you remember you can’t.
You may convince yourself that you have the sheer for of will to stop searching their pages—daily or hourly—but the truth is, you’re better off just getting the social media websites involved and asking them to be the third-party mediators in this situation. They invented a block option on purpose: partially for people to say sayonara to creepers, and partially to help people stop investigating whether or not their exes are smooching someone new.
2 Get rid of anything they left in your apartment
Take down the photos hanging on your bulletin board and stick all the gifts they bought you for Valentine’s Day, your birthday, and those handful of days when they messed up royally and put them in the trash. Even if your favorite t-shirt that you still wear all the time was theirs, or you don’t think you’re ready to dump the handful of love letters you have saved in your drawer, giving away the old only makes room for the new.
Plus, you don’t want to find yourself in the goo-goo eyes phase with a new squeeze, only to invite them over and then have to explain why you still have a poem your ex wrote you hanging above your bed (I’ve been there, done that, and it’s all kinds of awkward).
3. Start fresh
Dealing with a breakup can cause even the strongest among us to plummet into a rut. To avoid the trap of self-pity, take some time to refresh yourself and your space. Hit the spa, get a haircut and buy a brand new outfit. Then spice up your space to symbolize your step in a new direction. Repaint the bedroom, rearrange furniture or add some new accessories to give your home a new, post-breakup look.
Meet new people. This can seem tremendously difficult, but it can also have a huge impact on how thoroughly you recover. By meeting new people, you allow yourself to see that there are others who may come to appreciate and love you. Similarly, you might also realize that there really are other fish in the sea