1. When they complain or talk about their ex.
It’s hard to move on when you’ve still got your mind on old relationships. They are probably not over it yet and there’s nothing worse than a relationship with the ex still lingering around.
2. If they keep your relationship a secret.
People fall for it time and time again. If you haven’t met their friends, you’re not their partner.
3. They don’t get along with many other people.
If they are rude and there is a lot of tension between them and other people, there must be a reason why all these people don’t like your partner.
4. They only tell half-truths.
Adults tell the full part of the story, and don’t leave out the parts that will make you upset. If there are parts that would make you upset, that would be a separate red flag.
5. They throw temper tantrums over little things.
Emotional stability is key in a long-term relationship and it’s a lot to deal with. If they have legitimate emotional issues, maybe they should see a psychiatrist. They should not be yelling at you, in person or by text message, multiple times per day.
6. They treat their family poorly.
Someone who is rude to their family, is not long-term relationship material. If you are thinking this relationship could last, they will start treating you like family one day, and that could or could not be a good thing.
7. They make rules over you.
They make rules about who you hang out with, where you go, who you talk to, what you wear, how you do your hair, etc. There’s a point where it all becomes too much, especially if your partner would never want to comply with the same set of rules that they place on you. Don’t let a double standard control your relationship.
8. They refuse to get close to your family.
They don’t make any effort to get to know your family, or the people who are important to you in your life.
9. You are the one who always apologizes to end fights.
People get tired, and there gets to be a point where the fighting is too much. It’s not uncommon for one person to continuously apologize, just to end the fight, regardless if they were right or wrong. If it becomes a routine that one person always apologizes and the other does not, you’re dating a master manipulator.
10. They password protect all of their devices.
If you know their passwords and don’t start questioning you or watching over you while you are on their device, that’s another story. This goes both ways. You have to let your partner go on your phone, just as much as you like to go on theirs.
11. They don’t comfort you in times of need.
They don’t show any sign of care for your comfort, or completely disregard it in situations where your comfort is clearly at stake.
12. They are rude and inconsiderate to service workers.
How do they treat the hostess if they don’t have the table you want, or waiter if your drinks are a few minutes late? How do they treat the bank teller if they are having a bad day? How do they treat the door greeter or the taxi driver? Narcissism sucks and they will eventually treat you the same way.
13. They become angry when discussing their mistakes.
It’s not alright when they become angry about discussing anything they don’t like, don’t agree with, or don’t want to talk about.
Your partner shouldn’t lose their handle and try to suppress your communication at times when they know they are wrong. Their inability to talk about things that annoy them or strike a nerve is going to cause communication obstacles in your relationship further down the road.
14. When they make a negative comment about everything.
If they are making a negative comment about everything, early into a relationship, those negative comments will eventually shift to you and they will be dissatisfied with everything you do as well.
15. The way they flirt with you when they had a partner.
I mean, if they left their partner for you, they will most certainly do that to you too. The amount of guys that try to talk to exes for a second chance, when they have a partner, really surprises me. If they are willing to be sneaky with you while in a relationship, how will they act when they are with you next?
16. All of their friends are of the opposite sex.
This is a key when it comes to girls especially. This is a textbook red flag that has been told time and time again. If most of her friends are guys, she probably loves the attention from males and is an attention whore.
The worst part about this is most of these guys secretly have a crush on her or want to get in her pants, so they hate you as a result. She may not see any of their intentions, either out of pure ignorance or she’s lying. She also may cause too much drama with female friends, which causes them to not want to be with her.
17. They don’t show interest in what is important to you.
This is such a basic stepping stone; however, so many relationships move forward even when they don’t value what is important to each other. This will just lead to problems in the long run.
18. They don’t pay compliments or thanks.
If you regularly do favors for your partner, your partner gets used to them and your favors start to become expectations. They also don’t see what you do for them, so you’re unappreciated and shouldn’t put up with this. Someone else will appreciate what you do for them.
19. They preach that they are independent.
It’s a common thread for people who continuously call themselves independent to be selfish.
20. They have a history of drinking too much.
Binge drinking is a red flag for more things that just a relationship. It often masks other problems. Have you had to carry her home, while she drunkenly yells at you until she finally falls asleep? Regular excessive drinking will not help your relationship, and a past of it is not a good sign.
H/T: Life Hack