Sometimes in life pressure simply builds up and creates these urges for you to say “I’m sorry.”
“I’m sorry” can roll off of the tongue so easily that it can leave you wondering if you did anything that was really worth apologizing for
When things don’t go as planned, or we allow our insecurities to creep into the present moment, saying “I’m sorry” can be the easy path out of awkwardness.
Obviously, it’s important to apologize when you’re in the wrong. If you are, go ahead and whip out the s-word.
Here are 10 things you should never apologize for:
1. Speaking Your Mind
Words have power and a strong woman uses them to her advantage to communicate effectively. Strong women should never apologize for using language to express themselves; even if that includes swearing, raising her voice or saying unpopular things.
2. Putting God 1st
Your beliefs and values are what makes you “You”. Never feel bad about standing up for what you believe in or choosing to do what is right over something you know is not Christian like.
Don’t feel pressured and don’t apologize for not wanting to do something that contradicts with your beliefs and God’s word. Sometimes it may be hard to be authentic in a society where superficial is praised. Be yourself unapologetically.
3. Self Confidence
Showing confidence is one thing, being cocky is another. Loving who you are and and feeling good about yourself is a must. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
4. Saying No
‘No’ is a powerful word, and strong women will not apologize for using it liberally. A strong woman will decline to overextend herself so that she has more energy to devote to people and activities who are a priority.
Although it can be tempting to apologize for skipping your party, a strong woman knows that she’s not doing anything that needs your forgiveness. If you are upset that she can’t attend your event, that’s a negative emotion that you put on yourself, not something that a she has caused you to feel. Apologizing for someone else’s negative emotions is not what a strong woman will do.
5. Your beliefs/ Morals
Your beliefs and values are what makes you “You”. Never feel bad about standing up for what you believe in. Sometimes it may be hard to be authentic in a society where superficial is praised. Be yourself unapologetically.
6. Wanting more out of life
Wanting more out of life doesn’t necessarily mean that you are ungrateful for the life you have. Some people are comfortable with the bare minimums of life. Don’t let them make you feel bad for wanting more.
7. Your Success
You should never apologize for the things you’ve accomplished, the accolades you’ve received or the amazing career you have. Your hard work and sacrifice are the reason why you’ve achieved so much. We often down play our success to make other people feel comfortable. I’m not saying you should brag and make someone else feel inferior, but don’t ever apologize for what you’ve worked so hard to obtain.
8. Needing some ‘me time’
It’s understandable and essential—not selfish. Sometimes it’s just one of those days when you want to be left alone.” We all have times when we want to be alone. It’s ok to feel and do so. Don’t apologize for being human and wanting to be left alone sometimes.
9. Disagreeing with someone’s opinion
As long as you make your point respectfully, you’re 1,000 percent entitled to it. It can be tough sometimes, but there’s nothing wrong with sticking to your guns.
You’re human. You have emotions. Tears are not a sign of weakness. Whether you cry tears of joy or tears of pain, you are allowed to be human. Granted, some people are a little more emotional than others. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for being human.
11. Asking For What You Want
Otherwise, how will anybody know what you want? If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no. You know what you want, and asking for it will only make your life easier.
12. Having Strong Opinions
A strong woman will not apologize for having and expressing her own unique thoughts, even if they are different from yours. She also has no need to apologize for holding seemingly conflicting beliefs. For example when she expects a gentleman to hold the door for her, while still expecting him to treat her as his equal.
Strong women are aware of the convention of devaluing traditional female roles and segregating gender in the workplace and they do not apologize for expressing their dissatisfaction with this. Strong women will not apologize for expecting equal pay for equal work, equal treatment by the law and evolving gender roles.
13. Forgiving Someone
Have you ever forgiven someone only for your friends to wonder why you did so? They still wanted to keep the beef going while you were content with letting the situation go.
Forgiveness is another one of those things that can improve your mental well-being, so it’s not worth apologizing for forgiving someone.
14. Being You
Have you ever heard of the phrase “Do you!”? Well that’s a perfect reminder to never apologize for being yourself and doing what you have to do for you and only you. People will try to put you in a “box” and limit your capabilities. Don’t fall victim that, be authentically you and let everyone us catch up.