Whether you’re flirting over text, online, or in-person, it’s important to keep a balance between revealing your feelings and keeping the person you like intrigued.
Flirting, at its most basic, is playfully showing you are romantically attracted to someone. If you are ready to flirt with someone, you should already know you are sexually attracted to them, and like them! It might seem nerve-wracking to start flirting and put yourself out there, but fear not—it’s normal to be nervous around someone you really like, and there are ways to seem confident and pull off a successful flirtation.
If you want to know how to flirt and you’d like some help getting to know someone, this article gives some general advice.
1. Make eye contact.
Eye contact is the best and easiest thing you can do to start flirting. You can look deeply into the person’s eyes while also taking the time to break eye contact to keep things from getting too intense. Consider using it in these ways: Get caught looking. Don’t stare, but do throw small glances at someone. Keep doing it until he or she catches you. Hold the gaze for a second, smile, and look away.
Look into his or her eyes when you talk, particularly at meaningful points in the conversation (for example, while you’re paying a compliment).
You’ll probably smile automatically if you’re talking to someone you like, but you can use your pearly whites to your advantage before the conversation even starts. You can even smile at the person when you pass him or her by in the halls, or just from across the room. You don’t have to grin from ear to ear, either; just a simple, subtle smile will do the trick.