Marriage is an amazing thing and getting married is probably one of the happiest times is one’s life. But deciding on a person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life is definitely not that easy. One needs to put in a lot of thought and observation into knowing their partner before they decide on getting married to them. We often hear married couples arguing and saying things like “You never told me about this before” or “I should have got to know this before our marriage”. So communication and knowing your partner is undoubtedly a very important step that you cannot miss upon while getting married. Though knowing these things do not ensure a trouble free wedding life but it can help in maintaining a healthy married life.
Here are top 10 such things about your soul-mate that you should be well aware of before you decide to get hitched with them.
1. HOUSEHOLD CHORES
Asking your fiancé about whether s/he is comfortable doing laundry after marriage might sound a little inappropriate but household chores often make couples argue and fight with each other. In order to avoid such arguments it’s better to have an open discussion about what household chores your partner will be able to do and will they be comfortable while doing them. According to that a couple can divide the chores in advance so that they don’t have to live in a mess and chaos right from the Day 1 of their marriage.
2. HEALTH ISSUES
Knowing about the health of your partner and any chronic diseases they might be suffering from is very important. Especially because you intend to have a family with them knowing about the diseases that can genetically transfer to your kids is something you cannot compromise on. Also getting test for AIDS and other STD’s is a healthy option as these doesn’t just affect your partner’s health but can also be a threat over your medical conditions. But make sure that you go about this in a sensitive manner as you partner might feel a little embarrassed about sharing such information with you. Talk to them gently without insinuating that you do not trust him/her.
3. FAMILY TRADITIONS
Marrying to a person also means that you are entering in a whole new family which you have to accept as your own. Now it’s not necessary that your partner comes from a similar culture or a social background as you. His/her family might be having completely different traditions and customs that you have ever heard of. And being a part of their traditions is not just your responsibility as a spouse but it also affects your relationship with your partner. In such a situation you should ask your soul-mate more and more about how their family celebrates different festivals and what are the rituals that you will be expected to follow after marriage. This way you can avoid any future problems that you might have to face otherwise while adjusting in the family.
4. RELIGIOUS VIEWS
Knowing about your partner’s religious views is also important as it can help you two bond on a better level. Knowing whether your partner is a believer, an atheist or an agnostic can help you understand them more. Also whether they like indulging in any religious practices like going to a church every Sunday is good to know in advance. If two of yours views match then it’s a great thing but even if they don’t then try to respect their beliefs while holding on to yours.
5. THEIR WEIRD HABITS
A person can have a whole lot of weird habits and addictions that you would have never seen them possessing or even thought about. And once you get married all those habits get revealed and they might make you go crazy at times. Like they might need to sleep in a particular night outfit and cannot sleep at all if someday that night dress is left uncleaned. Or they might have a habit of reading newspaper in bathroom for long hours. These habits can creep you out or cause, though not very huge, but little troubles in your otherwise peaceful life. Thus it’s better to have knowledge about such habits beforehand.