Relationships tend to become unfulfilling when you feel unappreciated or taken for granted. It’s not all that difficult to identify. When you find a relationship that is exactly what you wanted, where you are truly valued, consider yourself lucky. Here a few signs of such a relationship:
You could be whining about the weather, or narrating that argument you had with your friend, everything you say counts. They’re always attentive when you’re speaking, no distractions. You’re listened to and understood. Nothing you say is made fun of or overlooked as unimportant. If you have something to say, no matter how significant it actually is, it is important. They’d listen to your problems all day long and try helping you with them. Even if they can’t help, you get load off your chest. If there’s something they did wrong, they’d not only listen to you but also try to do things differently.
Maybe not always in the most elaborate manner, but in those tiny gestures as well. After all, the smallest things make the biggest difference. When they’re away, you’re the last person they’d talk to before going to bed, filling you in on the events of the day. They’re involved in your life at all times. Every little triumph is a reason to celebrate. And every set back is an excuse to get your mind off things. The love is unconditional.
There is no playing hard to get, or on again, off again, or word play or any sort of mixed signals. They don’t lead you on with the intention of leaving you hanging in between. You know exactly where you stand in their life, how much they value you and the relationship as well. You don’t need to read into everything they say, because there are no hidden meanings. They’d always say what they mean to say, nothing more, and nothing less.
They make you feel comfortable enough to not keep anything from them. And trust them enough to confide in them. You can share your fears, your dreams and your worst experiences, and they’d always lend an ear. They won’t make you feel bad about yourself or tell you off. You trusting them and them accepting you strengthens your bond even more.
They’re not clingy and neither are you. You both respect each other’s space. Having a life outside the relationship is crucial to your individual identity; a relationship alone cannot define who you are as a person. There are so many aspects to a person’s life, than just that one person. And spending all your time with just them can be suffocating for both of you. Spending time apart helps you appreciate them even more. And the things you do, that are not related to your partner, help you be yourself. You both want each other to make the most of life, with or without the other person.
Maybe not literally, but they never cut you off, for any period of time. When they’re away, they don’t forget about you. You’d hear from them every now and then, and you’d want to stay in touch as well. They never make you wait too long to get you thinking if they even care, or do they not notice you missing or maybe they’re better off on their own rather than being with you.