If one or two of these apply to your relationship, don’t freak out: these are warning signs, which means the problems can still be fixed with an open, honest conversation. But if more than a few ring true for you, that might mean that you and your boyfriend aren’t meant to be – at least not right now.
HE CALLS YOU CRAZY.
“Crazy” is what guys call girls when they want to invalidate their feelings and experiences. It’s a red flag that he isn’t mature enough to really listen to you, and own up to his behavior. And if he swears up and down that every single one of his exes are crazy, it may be a sign you should run.
HE CHEATS ON YOU.
Leave. Seriously, get out. Pronto. He’ll do it again, and even if he doesn’t, you deserve someone who would never violate your trust and risk your relationship like that.
HE MAKES YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF.
You deserve to date someone who treats you like the goddess you are, period. If he wants you to change (by dressing differently, blowing off your friends, or drinking and partying when that’s not your scene) that’s a sign he doesn’t really like you for you, and you deserve someone much better.
HE’S MEAN TO HIS MOM OR YOUR WAITRESS.
If he’s obnoxious to them, he’ll likely be obnoxious to you one day, too.
HE THREATENS TO BREAK UP WITH YOU ALL THE TIME.
This is emotionally manipulative behavior. You shouldn’t have to go through life cringing every time you say or do anything, worrying that your S.O. is going to drop you for good.
YOU ALWAYS TEXT HIM BACK RIGHT AWAY, BUT HE TAKES HIS SWEET TIME TO RESPOND TO YOU.
If he goes a few hours without returning your text every once in awhile, If he rarely writes back on time and sometimes not at all, consider why you text him back right away. Because talking to him gives you butterflies? Because you’re having a fantastic conversation? Because you’re polite? And why isn’t he returning the favor? If his texting fails bother you, let him know. He might not realize you’re counting the minutes between his responses. Or he might not feel the same way about you — in which case, you don’t need him in your life.
HE DOESN’T LISTEN TO YOU.
If he never pays attention when you talk to him, what’s the point of dating him? He doesn’t need to recall your conversations word for word, but he should put his phone down for a sec (yes, really), listen, and offer thoughtful input.
HE NEVER COMPLIMENTS YOU.
Even shy or stoic guys can open up every once in awhile to say nobody makes him laugh like you do, or that your performance in the school play deserved an Oscar, or that you look like a freaking supermodel in that dress.
THE RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT HIM
.You hang out at his house when it’s convenient for his schedule and get pizza because it’s his favorite food. And while that’s totally cool once in awhile, relationships are about give and take. If he can’t give let you choose what to watch on Netflix or talk about what’s on your mind every once in awhile, he’s way more into himself than he’s into you. You deserve someone who thinks you’re bomb and makes you feel special.
YOU CAN’T TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE THEY KEEP TELLING YOU HE SUCKS.
Chatting with friends should be fun and easy. If you’re doing mental gymnastics to avoid dropping your boyfriend’s name and incurring the wrath of your friends’ haterade, that’s a huge red flag. Unless they’re jealous monsters, they aren’t randomly hating on your boyf just to hate on him. They know you deserve way better (and wish you knew that, too).